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or better yet, go to Red Lobster!!!!!! Have you gone to Red Lobster yet, ML?    When I go, I usually get their rock lobster tail.   Yummy!    Not exactly cheap, but once in awhile, I guess it’s ok to indulge oneself.

I’ve never been there.  Plan to some day, though.

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Maybe we should skip the lobster; you guys drive up here and we’ll go to the Seattle waterfront and get fresh Alaskan king crab.  Or freshly grilled salmon.  Or both…..mmmmmmmm……. There is this little place on one of the piers where they bring your meal in a big bowl and dump it out on your table, which has been covered with newspaper.  It contains little crab legs, clams, mussels, shrimp, little new potatoes, chunks of corn on the cob, and other yummy things and you eat with your fingers and a crab-cracking hammer. Throw in a couple of amber ales

I’m on my way.

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Maybe we should skip the lobster; you guys drive up here and we’ll go to the Seattle waterfront and get fresh Alaskan king crab.  Or freshly grilled salmon.  Or both…..mmmmmmmm……. There is this little place on one of the piers where they bring your meal in a big bowl and dump it out on your table, which has been covered with newspaper.  It contains little crab legs, clams, mussels, shrimp, little new potatoes, chunks of corn on the cob, and other yummy things and you eat with your fingers and a crab-cracking hammer. Throw in a couple of amber ales I’m on my way.

Ummm, can you hold the table?  I’ll be there sometime in mid May. Lori Mc

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I’m on my way. Ummm, can you hold the table?  I’ll be there sometime in mid May.

It’s called "The Crab Pot" and it’s right down the hill from Pike Place Market.  It’s by the water taxis.  Once you get to the waterfront, just ask and someone will point you in the right direction.  I could be wrong, but they may also have steaks if that’s what your companion prefers. Lauri in WA I like my email spamless

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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Humph.  This is heartbreaking.  I interrupt because I sense that you need advice NOW.  Put a smile on your face, your pajamas on, grab your sleeping bag, make popcorn, and crash the party.  You don’t have to look at your ex, just your daughter and her friends.  Don’t let your heart be broken.  Follow through with your intentions. Refuse to fight.  Ignore any negativity.  Be the adult.  You can do this.  Many people are behind you. A newbie,  Pegi Hi all, I have been planning and buying items for my daughter’s birthday sleepover for over a week. We’d gone and bought stuff to make party baskets, rented videos, ordered the pizza, scheduled it all to proceed without a hitch. Mom seemed inattentive and outside of the entire situation. She never discussed the party or indicated she would change her current schedule of leaving Friday nights and returning on Sunday mornings so I could have ‘my day’ for myself. Last night she informed me she would be at the party and, effectively, ‘in charge’. As I don’t want to upset my youngest I once again acquiesced and volunteered to find something else to do in order to reduce the potential tension in the house. My daughter wants me here so I agreed to stay. Now the stbx is in the daughter’s room with all the girls and have basically shut me out of the party that I planned. As annoyed as I am at the whole turn-about, I am not sure what it is that I am supposed to do with myself, other than asking advice on this forum. My question is: How would you as a parent react to this usurpation? Thanks ml, Pegi. Soon after my posting the mom ditched the kids as I rejoined the party. We played silly string, and served the ice cream. Then we played the ‘Survivor’ game and watched videos. She only re-appeared to vacuum the mess up then disappeared again to do her laundry then to bed. Maybe I am a little too sensitive when it comes to the kids. The whole of my life right now is centered around them and I have a whole new appreciation for single parents. But the rewards make all the heartache worthwhile. Thanks for the support.

Good for you.  But something to remember, one day when the kids are grown, you’re still gonna have YOU.  Be sure you don’t neglect taking care of yourself.  I made the mistake of wrapping up my entire identity in being my kids’ mom, and then in trying to be my (new) husband’s wife..    I forgot to love myself, and suddenly realized that if i don’t do it, nobody else is gonna. I don’t think you sound too sensitive in regards to your kids.  You sound normal. Now, tomorrow i think you should go out and do something special for yourself. Buy yourself dinner, or maybe even some flowers.  Yeah, i’ll buy myself some flowers if you’ll buy yourself some flowers. (or go fishing, that would count, too)

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or better yet, go to Red Lobster!!!!!!

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or better yet, go to Red Lobster!!!!!!

Have you gone to Red Lobster yet, ML?    When I go, I usually get their rock lobster tail.   Yummy!    Not exactly cheap, but once in awhile, I guess it’s ok to indulge oneself.

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One of those disgusting situations that come with territory. The best thing you can do is let your daughter have a good time. Be glad you got rid of that wife, well almost. i

Thanks igor. I’ve been doing all I can to make this a stress free environment and let’s just say she hasn’t. One side benefit of all this is that my tolerance level has shifted much higher than it used to be since I can (mostly) laugh off the insults and bad behavior on her part. On the other hand, August 22nd can’t come quick enough for me. I’ve already scheduled a poker party for that night. You’re all invited but please RSVP, I still need to rent chairs for everyone that have already committed to help me celebrate. — Regards, CK (remove clothes when replying)

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Good for you.  But something to remember, one day when the kids are grown, you’re still gonna have YOU.  Be sure you don’t neglect taking care of yourself.  I made the mistake of wrapping up my entire identity in being my kids’ mom, and then in trying to be my (new) husband’s wife..    I forgot to love myself, and suddenly realized that if i don’t do it, nobody else is gonna. I don’t think you sound too sensitive in regards to your kids.  You sound normal. Now, tomorrow i think you should go out and do something special for yourself. Buy yourself dinner, or maybe even some flowers.  Yeah, i’ll buy myself some flowers if you’ll buy yourself some flowers. (or go fishing, that would count, too)

ml, I am definitely taking care of me this time. I keep reminding myself of the analogy of the airline oxygen masks. That is what helps me focus on the kids while not losing myself in the process. Since it appears I have the entire Saturday free, I decided to accept the invitation to a St. Patty’s/ Solstice party that I had previously turned down. This is the first ‘free’ Sat. I have had in seven months, might as well make the most of it, even though it is short notice. I might even trip on down to the Red Lobster! Anyone that joins me might get the chance to drive a Porsche. — Regards, CK (remove clothes when replying)

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Humph.  This is heartbreaking.  I interrupt because I sense that you need advice NOW.  Put a smile on your face, your pajamas on, grab your sleeping bag, make popcorn, and crash the party.  You don’t have to look at your ex, just your daughter and her friends.  Don’t let your heart be broken.  Follow through with your intentions. Refuse to fight.  Ignore any negativity.  Be the adult.  You can do this.  Many people are behind you. A newbie,  Pegi

Thanks Pegi, I wanted to reply to your message directly. Thanks for the advice. I ‘crashed’ the party of my own volition and it worked out very well. Your advice turned out to be spot on and I thank you for sharing. Especially the part about ignoring the negativity. As long as I don’t let her get me upset I maintain my level of happiness and I seem to be getting much better at it. Thanks for allowing me the occasional rant. And welcome to ASD! — Regards, CK (remove clothes when replying)

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I’m waiting for Lauri to come down so we can all go together. The anticipation is building for sweet, succulent lobster tail smothered in real butter! (Down boy!) — Regards, CK (remove clothes when replying) – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – or better yet, go to Red Lobster!!!!!!

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… Anyone that joins me might get the chance to drive a Porsche.

Great, just when I had convinced myself that chasing material goods wasn’t so important… At least I’m not trying so hard to avoid Guinness. Here’s a toast to you and best wishes on a well deserved self-indulgent day.   — Andy

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Personally… I like a whole lobster…. the meat in the claws is just as good as the meat in the tail…. And a lobster should be about 2 lbs….. that way, you get lots of meat….. Now look what you did… you’ve got me hankerin’ for a lobster meal..!!!

I’m waiting for Lauri to come down so we can all go together. The anticipation is building for sweet, succulent lobster tail smothered in real butter! (Down boy!) — Regards, CK (remove clothes when replying)

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – or better yet, go to Red Lobster!!!!!!

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(remove clothes when replying) or better yet, go to Red Lobster!!!!!! I’m waiting for Lauri to come down so we can all go together. The anticipation is building for sweet, succulent lobster tail smothered in real butter!

Lauri?  Butter?  Lobster?  I’m in!  Don’t leave without me! Lauri in WA I like my email spamless

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Thanks for reminding me. Last week I heard the radio DJays complaining about the high price of Maine lobster in San Diego when one can drive down to Mexico and buy lobster for the cheap. If anyone who was raised on ‘real’ lobster can tell me that the Spiny California lobster is as good I will call them liars. For one thing, their claws are very small and practically meatless so are generally not served. Anyone who has only had this variety just will not understand the attraction. That leaves more for me! — Regards, CK (remove clothes when replying)

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Personally… I like a whole lobster…. the meat in the claws is just as good as the meat in the tail…. And a lobster should be about 2 lbs….. that way, you get lots of meat….. Now look what you did… you’ve got me hankerin’ for a lobster meal..!!! I’m waiting for Lauri to come down so we can all go together. The anticipation is building for sweet, succulent lobster tail smothered in real butter! (Down boy!) — Regards, CK (remove clothes when replying) or better yet, go to Red Lobster!!!!!!

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(remove clothes when replying)

or better yet, go to Red Lobster!!!!!! I’m waiting for Lauri to come down so we can all go together. The anticipation is building for sweet, succulent lobster tail smothered in real butter! Lauri?  Butter?  Lobster?  I’m in!  Don’t leave without me! Lauri in WA I like my email spamless

Don’t forget the tail! — Regards, CK (remove clothes when replying)

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Thanks Andy, Money can’t buy happiness but the joys it can rent! Mmmm…. Guinness! I’m off to mom’s for corned beef and cabbage then off to the Equinox party for homebrew green beer. Cheers! — Regards, CK (remove clothes when replying)

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – … Anyone that joins me might get the chance to drive a Porsche. Great, just when I had convinced myself that chasing material goods wasn’t so important… At least I’m not trying so hard to avoid Guinness. Here’s a toast to you and best wishes on a well deserved self-indulgent day.   — Andy

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Last week I heard the radio DJays complaining about the high price of Maine lobster in San Diego when one can drive down to Mexico and buy lobster for the cheap. If anyone who was raised on ‘real’ lobster can tell me that the Spiny California lobster is as good I will call them liars. <snip

The infidels!  They should be fined by the FCC! IMHO, the only way to eat ‘real’ lobster is to fly into Bangor and drive to Bar Harbor… [Rog']

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Hi all, I have been planning and buying items for my daughter’s birthday sleepover for over a week. We’d gone and bought stuff to make party baskets, rented videos, ordered the pizza, scheduled it all to proceed without a hitch. Mom seemed inattentive and outside of the entire situation. She never discussed the party or indicated she would change her current schedule of leaving Friday nights and returning on Sunday mornings so I could have ‘my day’ for myself. Last night she informed me she would be at the party and, effectively, ‘in charge’. As I don’t want to upset my youngest I once again acquiesced and volunteered to find something else to do in order to reduce the potential tension in the house. My daughter wants me here so I agreed to stay. Now the stbx is in the daughter’s room with all the girls and have basically shut me out of the party that I planned. As annoyed as I am at the whole turn-about, I am not sure what it is that I am supposed to do with myself, other than asking advice on this forum. My question is: How would you as a parent react to this usurpation? — Regards, CK (remove clothes when replying)

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Now the stbx is in the daughter’s room with all the girls and have basically shut me out of the party that I planned. As annoyed as I am at the whole turn-about, I am not sure what it is that I am supposed to do with myself, other than asking advice on this forum. My question is: How would you as a parent react to this usurpation?

One of those frustrating times when you’d like to tell your kid that their other parent is an ass, but you bite your tongue and say nothing, and be happy that your kid is having a good time. It’s rough.

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Humph.  This is heartbreaking.  I interrupt because I sense that you need advice NOW.  Put a smile on your face, your pajamas on, grab your sleeping bag, make popcorn, and crash the party.  You don’t have to look at your ex, just your daughter and her friends.  Don’t let your heart be broken.  Follow through with your intentions. Refuse to fight.  Ignore any negativity.  Be the adult.  You can do this.  Many people are behind you. A newbie,  Pegi – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hi all, I have been planning and buying items for my daughter’s birthday sleepover for over a week. We’d gone and bought stuff to make party baskets, rented videos, ordered the pizza, scheduled it all to proceed without a hitch. Mom seemed inattentive and outside of the entire situation. She never discussed the party or indicated she would change her current schedule of leaving Friday nights and returning on Sunday mornings so I could have ‘my day’ for myself. Last night she informed me she would be at the party and, effectively, ‘in charge’. As I don’t want to upset my youngest I once again acquiesced and volunteered to find something else to do in order to reduce the potential tension in the house. My daughter wants me here so I agreed to stay. Now the stbx is in the daughter’s room with all the girls and have basically shut me out of the party that I planned. As annoyed as I am at the whole turn-about, I am not sure what it is that I am supposed to do with myself, other than asking advice on this forum. My question is: How would you as a parent react to this usurpation?

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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Humph.  This is heartbreaking.  I interrupt because I sense that you need advice NOW.  Put a smile on your face, your pajamas on, grab your sleeping bag, make popcorn, and crash the party.  You don’t have to look at your ex, just your daughter and her friends.  Don’t let your heart be broken.  Follow through with your intentions. Refuse to fight.  Ignore any negativity.  Be the adult.  You can do this.  Many people are behind you. A newbie,  Pegi Hi all, I have been planning and buying items for my daughter’s birthday sleepover for over a week. We’d gone and bought stuff to make party baskets, rented videos, ordered the pizza, scheduled it all to proceed without a hitch. Mom seemed inattentive and outside of the entire situation. She never discussed the party or indicated she would change her current schedule of leaving Friday nights and returning on Sunday mornings so I could have ‘my day’ for myself. Last night she informed me she would be at the party and, effectively, ‘in charge’. As I don’t want to upset my youngest I once again acquiesced and volunteered to find something else to do in order to reduce the potential tension in the house. My daughter wants me here so I agreed to stay. Now the stbx is in the daughter’s room with all the girls and have basically shut me out of the party that I planned. As annoyed as I am at the whole turn-about, I am not sure what it is that I am supposed to do with myself, other than asking advice on this forum. My question is: How would you as a parent react to this usurpation?

Thanks ml, Pegi. Soon after my posting the mom ditched the kids as I rejoined the party. We played silly string, and served the ice cream. Then we played the ‘Survivor’ game and watched videos. She only re-appeared to vacuum the mess up then disappeared again to do her laundry then to bed. Maybe I am a little too sensitive when it comes to the kids. The whole of my life right now is centered around them and I have a whole new appreciation for single parents. But the rewards make all the heartache worthwhile. Thanks for the support. — Regards, CK (remove clothes when replying)

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There is this little place on one of the piers where they bring your meal in a big bowl and dump it out on your table, which has been covered with newspaper.  It contains little crab legs, clams, mussels, shrimp, little new potatoes, chunks of corn on the cob, and other yummy things and you eat with your fingers and a crab-cracking hammer. Throw in a couple of amber ales and man, that’s a meal.

AHHHHHHHHHHHHHH and to think I have never ate at this wonderful sounding place.  I love seafood!  Seems every time I am in Seattle it is with a person who doesn’t like fish, let alone sea food.  Ah Geeze…. Lori Mc

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Crab is good… but to me, there is much more work getting crabmeat out of those crab legs, then what it takes to get the meat out of a lobster… But that’s just my opinion….  :-)

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – If anyone who was raised on ‘real’ lobster can tell me that the Spiny California lobster is as good I will call them liars. For one thing, their claws are very small and practically meatless so are generally not served. Maybe we should skip the lobster; you guys drive up here and we’ll go to the Seattle waterfront and get fresh Alaskan king crab.  Or freshly grilled salmon.  Or both…..mmmmmmmm……. There is this little place on one of the piers where they bring your meal in a big bowl and dump it out on your table, which has been covered with newspaper.  It contains little crab legs, clams, mussels, shrimp, little new potatoes, chunks of corn on the cob, and other yummy things and you eat with your fingers and a crab-cracking hammer. Throw in a couple of amber ales and man, that’s a meal. Lauri in WA I like my email spamless

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If anyone who was raised on ‘real’ lobster can tell me that the Spiny California lobster is as good I will call them liars. For one thing, their claws are very small and practically meatless so are generally not served.

Maybe we should skip the lobster; you guys drive up here and we’ll go to the Seattle waterfront and get fresh Alaskan king crab.  Or freshly grilled salmon.  Or both…..mmmmmmmm……. There is this little place on one of the piers where they bring your meal in a big bowl and dump it out on your table, which has been covered with newspaper.  It contains little crab legs, clams, mussels, shrimp, little new potatoes, chunks of corn on the cob, and other yummy things and you eat with your fingers and a crab-cracking hammer. Throw in a couple of amber ales and man, that’s a meal. Lauri in WA I like my email spamless

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